Sorry I haven't called, but we moved to another world, the world of autism.
We started to move slowly into that world called autism back when Sierra was around a year old, that is when she started to get worse. We stopped going to restaurants first, then we stopped going to the stores with her, then we couldn't go to the playgrounds, and so on. I think our final departure from our old world was when we had her evaluated and it was official that she had autism. We canceled our plans to go to my nephews wedding and our plans to go visit family for Christmas that year and moved to our new world.
We didn't want to move here, but how do you explain to your friends why your child is banging their head on their floor, or how do you explain why it is not a good idea for your family to come to your house because it upsets their routine. How do you tell your Sister your sorry for your child screaming through your nephews wedding vows, or throwing the dishes on the floor to see if they spin at the reception, or explaining why she is having a meltdown on the dance floor. How do you explain to another mother at the playground that your child doesn't want to play with their child and will cry if they come too close, or why your child won't move from in front of the slide because they have to clean all the sand off of it. How do you tell your family why your child stands at the dinner table or why she can't eat the chicken because it is stringy. Finally how many times will I have to tell someone that it has nothing to do with them why my child won't look at them, or why she cries if they talk to her. That is why we moved away to another world, to not have to do those things.
Sierra has gotten a lot better since we moved away and we have been visiting the old world quite often now. We don't have the problems at the park anymore and she is very well behaved at the stores most of the time. We can go to kid friendly restaurants, and she does sit down, but still doesn't like stringy chicken. Sierra has come a long way socially, but I don't think she will do good at a large gathering like a wedding. We even tried taking her to the movies to see Toy Story 3 and she did quite well except she was definitely too loud, but so were other kids.
Yes, the old world is nice to visit, but I don't know if we will ever move back, we have found lots of new things to do in our new world. You know how it is, you move away and you miss your old home but you make new friends and a new life, and you can't ever imagine moving back. This is our home now.